What Makes A Real Dominatrix?


There is an old joke that has more than a little truth in it. What does a Dominatrix wear? Anything she damn well wants. In reality the answer depends on what kind of a Dominatrix or Mistress you are, and what kind of clients you are dealing with. Let me explain a little more. With both clients (or submissives) and “dommes” or “Mistresses” there is a continuum with devotee at one end and dabbler at the other.

silver corset with black lame panties
On the client side, the dabbler would be represented by the client (both men and women will pay a dominatrix, but yes the client base is ninety five per cent male) who is really into a “tie and tease” or a bit of “slap and tickle. What they are basically after is vanilla sex with a little bit of spice and some pretty costumes – basques, maybe a uniform or two. Essentially they are looking for a normal sex experience with a sexy woman wearing something really sexy and to be teased a little to add to the experience. And the type of escort girls that provide this service are really just doing the same as always while wearing different clothes, which they probably got from a shop like Lovehoney. They are not really Dominatrices, they are escorts offering extra services.

At the other end of the scale are hard core submissives and real lifestyle Mistresses. The kind of submissives who might be a “pain slut” who just begs for more and more pain and has sometimes to be held back by the Dominatrix. That pain might come from impact play such as spanking, caning, riding crops or even bull whips. Or it might come from things such as scratching with nails or metal tools, or through nipple clamps or CBT (cock and ball torture) but either way, this kind of submissive had better be happy with marks such as weals and bruising.

And the kind of Dominatrix who can manage and deliver for a true submissive I a special breed. She is likely to be a lifestyle dominant, who carries her passion and control into her personal life. At the highest level, being a Mistress at that level is more about psychology than the infliction of pain. A good domme can bring a sub to his knees with a word, rather than needing a riding crop.

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